Saturday 23 January 2016

12 Things Mentally Strong People Just Don't Do

Mental strength isn't usually reflected in what you do. It's more often seen in what you don't do.

In her book "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do," Amy Morin writes that developing mental strength is a "three-pronged approach." It's about controlling your thoughts, behaviors, and emotions.

1. They don't waste time feeling sorry for themselves
Self-pity is destructive and creates feelings of negativity. The goal is swap self-pity with gratitude.

2. They maintain a strong grip on their power

Stand up for yourself. It's important that you keep track of your goals and work toward them.

3. They don't shy away from change

Making changes can be frightening, but shying away from them prevents growth and lets others pass you by.

4. They don't focus on things they can't control

Trying to be in control of everything is likely a response to anxiety. Instead, focus on what you can do.

5. They don't worry about pleasing everyone

You will be stronger and more confident if you stop judging yourself by what you believe other people think of you.

6. They don't spend time dwelling on the past

It doesn't solve anything, and can lead to depression. Instead, enjoy the present and plan for the future.

7. They don't make the same mistake over and over

Accept responsibility for the mistake and create a thoughtful, written plan to avoid the same mistake in the future.

8. They don't resent other people's success

Even if you become successful, you may never be content if you're always focusing on others.

9. They don't give up after the first failure

Success isn't always immediate, and failure is almost always an obstacle you will have to overcome. Learn to bounce back.

10. They don't fear spending time alone 

Solitude can help you focus on growth by increasing productivity, empathy and creativity.

11. They don't feel the world owes them anything

The key is to focus on your efforts, accept criticism, acknowledge your flaws, and don't keep score.

12. They don't expect immediate results

Relentlessly work towards your long-term goals, measure your progress, and look at the bigger picture.